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- artist
- risk taker
- smoker
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- convinced are alien
- lonely (only kidding!)
My name is Jane B and I have Borderline Personality Disorder. Most of my 46 years I have felt lost and painfully lonely, but it is only recently I have been 'diagnosed'. This has come as both a relief and an extra anxiety. The relentless 'WHYs' are now answered at least, but now I find myself almost giving in to it and am scared that I am now on the verge of fully-fledged insanity and losing control. There are lots of 'clinically' helpful sites out there on the web, but I felt I could gain comfort from, and offer something a bit more personal.
I'd love to hear how you're doing, whether you have BPD or are close to someone who has. Send me your thoughts, art, and especially poems and let me add them to mine. Read and rate the books and let me know about other good sites to visit. Lets all support each other.
These are three of my poems - If you'd like to add to them, please e-mail me at editor@BPDSite.com. There is also an art page on this site. Again, I will give it a kick-start by adding three of mine. Please feel free to have a look.
These books from Amazon come highly recommended for both the BPD sufferer and their loved ones
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Book Description
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder is a self-help guide that helps the family members and friends of individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this self-destructive disorder and learn what they can do to cope with it and take care of themselves. It is designed to help them understand how the disorder affects their loved ones and recognize what they can do to get off the emotional roller coasters and take care of themselves.
About the Author
Paul T. Mason is a program manager of Child/Adolescent Services and a psychotherapist with Psychiatric Services for St. Luke's Hospital in Racine, Wisconsin. His research on borderline personality disorder (BPD) has appeared in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, and he teaches seminars for mental health professional on the effects of BPD on partners and family members.
Randi Kreger is a professional writer and president of Kreger Marketing Group. Frustrated with lack of information about BPD and families, she initiated an internet discussions a group and a site on the web for people who care about someone with borderline personality disorder.
Kreger is also the author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook.
Book Description
A Clear and Effective Approach to Learning DBT Skills
First developed for treating borderline personality disorder, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) has proven effective as treatment for a range of other mental health problems, especially for those characterized by overwhelming emotions. Research shows that DBT can improve your ability to handle distress without losing control and acting destructively. In order to make use of these techniques, you need to build skills in four key areas--distress tolerance, mindfulness, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness.
This book, a collaborative effort from three esteemed authors, offers straightforward, step-by-step exercises for learning these concepts and putting them to work for real and lasting change. Start by working on the introductory exercises and, after making progress, move on to the advanced-skills chapters. Whether you are a professional or a general reader, whether you use this book to support work done in therapy or as the basis for self-help, you'll benefit from this clear and practical guide to better managing your emotions.
The individual struggling with overwhelming emotions and DBT therapists will benefit significantly from this workbook. McKay, Wood and Brantley have expanded and translated DBT Skills, making Linehan's iconic work on emotional skill building even more accessible and easy to apply to everyday life.--Kate Northcott, MA, MFT, is a DBT therapist in private practice with Mindfulness Therapy Associates and is director of New Perspectives Center for Counseling, a non-profit counseling center, in San Francisco, CA
From the Publisher
By a distinguished team of authors, this workbook offers readers unprecedented access to the core skills of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), formerly available only through complicated professional books and a small handful of topical workbooks. These straightforward, step-by-step exercises will bring DBT core skills to thousands who need it.
Product Description
"AM I LOSING MY MIND?"
People with Borderline Personality Disorder experience such violent and frightening mood swings that they often fear for their sanity. They can be euphoric one moment, despairing and depressed the next. There are an estimated 10 million sufferers of BPD living in America today -- each displaying remarkably similar symptoms:
- a shaky sense of identity
- sudden violent outbursts
- oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection
- brief, turbulent love affairs
- frequent periods of intense depression
- eating disorders, drug abuse, and other
self-destructive tendencies - an irrational fear of abandonment and an
inability to be alone
For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, and treat. But now, for the first time, Dr. Jerold J. Kreisman and health writer Hal Straus offer much-needed professional advice, helping victims and their families to understand and cope with this troubling,shockingly widespread affliction.
From Publishers Weekly
Kreisman’s I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me, a rigorous but informal introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder, was published in 1989, and has sold 300,000 copies since. This follow-up volume incorporates advances in the understanding of BPD that have been made in the last 15 years, as well as new case studies and anecdotes (the book begins with a patient named "Diana" who turns out be the late UK princess) and a less gloomy prognosis. Most of the 12 chapters begin with a particular patient, detailing specific symptoms and behaviors in a pulpy prose style, often including first person narrative ("Doc, you probably want to hear how horrible my mom and dad were") and reconstructed dialogue ("‘Fine,’ Patty bites off, impatiently shifting her weight to one hip. ‘Anything else?’"). While these narrative descriptions are a little hokey, they are packed with behaviors that Kreisman then proceeds to take up and unfold, all the while gently introducing technical terms as needed, and making suggestions for how to cope, verbally or otherwise, with a host of Borderline behaviors in family, lover or friend. The case studies occasionally have a lurid quality (particularly since BPD often involves acting out sexually) that is completely undercut by Kreisman’s patient analyses, making the book feel a little split. But even at its most garish, the book sticks close to the facts, and Kreisman’s commentary is expert and imperturbable.
Product Description
"Kreisman's commentary is expert. . . . [He] incorporates advances in the understanding of BPD that have been made in the last fifteen years, as well as new case studies and anecdotes. . . . Narrative descriptions . . . are packed with behaviors that Kreisman then proceeds to take up and unfold, all the while . . . making suggestions for how to cope, verbally or otherwise, with a host of Borderline behaviors."
–Publishers Weekly
Do you experience frightening mood swings? Are you oversensitive to rejection or prone to violent outbursts? Are you often depressed? Do you dread being alone and fear abandonment? Do you engage in self-destructive behaviors such as drug abuse or eating disorders? Do you feel empty inside? Do you have trouble keeping a job or forming lasting relationships?
If you or someone you love can answer yes to many of these questions, there's a good chance that you or that person suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder, a commonly misunderstood and misdiagnosed psychological problem afflicting millions of people.
In this book, the bestselling authors of I Hate You, Don't Leave Me offer BPD sufferers and their loved ones a new source of hope. After reading this book, you will understand the disorder and know what steps to take to help you make your life happier and more rewarding, whether you suffer from BPD yourself or love someone who does. Drawing on Dr. Jerold Kreisman's long experience in treating BPD patients, Sometimes I Act Crazy offers proven, practical advice to help you:
- Manage mood swings
- Develop lasting relationships
- Improve your self-esteem
- Keep negative thoughts at bay
- Control destructive impulses
- Understand your treatment options
- Find professional help
"This book is the only one I've ever seen that specifically addresses the unique challenges and frustrations faced by children raised by mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder, and it couldn't have been any higher quality. It is truly an outstanding book. The author provides information that is well organized, highly comprehensive, practical, and useful" by BonnieCarrine.
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"I don't know the solution. I know what I've been doing for 10 years - sometimes it works, sometimes is disastrous (much like now).....sometimes I muddle through a day and realise I was good at faking happy. Sometimes I go through a day and I don't know how horrible I was at faking happy until I see everyone and they're mad at me during the following day"
